Here in the UK August is traditionally holiday season and holidays are a great way to switch off from work and recharge our batteries.
But what about the rest of the time! It’s just as important to be able to stay calm and manage any stresses right through the year. If you’ve read the last couple of Monday Munch’s you’ll already have some strategies that will help.
This week I’m going to share a couple more.
Where is your calm place?
Think about a time when you felt really relaxed and calm and happy. Make it a specific time. Take a moment to go back there in your mind and re-live the moment, remember it clearly. What could you see, what could you hear, taste, smell, feel? As you recall that memory and all the details of it, you’ll start to feel that lovely relaxed, calm and happy feeling that you had back then; and the great thing is that now you’ve got it right here and right now.
Mine is on a hillside above Ullswater in the...
Do you ever feel like you’ve got so much on, and there are still people asking you for more things, whether it be bits of work or meetings or problems to solve?
It’s not something you have to put up with. You can choose to do something about it.
Setting Your Boundaries
When I talk about setting your boundaries, I’m talking in terms both of your time and the things that you do. It’s very easy to get into a situation where you feel like you just haven’t got time to do everything.
So, take a few minutes to step back and take a new look.
If you’ve answered yes to any of the above, isn’t...
As we move into August, many people are on holiday, the rush hour roads and trains are quieter and it’s perhaps a chance to reflect and get some strategies in place to reduce stress and increase your levels of calm and peace.
August is a 4 Monday month this year, so look out here and in my Monday Munch email, for some top tips to help you move into the autumn in a positive and stress-free state.
Have you ever had any of these reactions (either yourself or you’ve heard someone else say it), or something similar:
The common factor in these examples is that “you”, “he”, or “she” (i.e. someone else) is doing something, and you are reporting an emotional response. That response (reaction) is probably in the way that you always react, and you probably do it almost instantly.
It has become an almost instinctive response and you...
Who’s Blowing Yours?
Why, in a career blog would I be talking about trumpets? I don’t play one and probably never will, but there is a trumpet we all need to learn to play, and that’s our own.
I know, right, we’ve been told since we were really small, things like “don’t blow your own trumpet”, “it’s bad to brag”, and so on.
But seriously, if you don’t blow your own trumpet, it’s likely that nobody ever will.
In last week’s blog and Monday Munch (sign up at the bottom of this blog post if you’re not already getting it) I gave you a framework to talk about yourself competently, confidently and, probably most importantly, comfortably.
Listen to the good stuff
One thing that really helps in preparation for that is getting used to taking compliments about yourself. In other words, listening when people say nice things about you and deliberately focussing on your own good points.
One of the simplest ways you can reduce stress, get more done and get more of what you want is by remembering, before you start anything, to take a few moments to decide what the outcome is that you want.
It doesn’t matter how big or small that something is.
It could be your major life, career or business goals (in which case you’ll take a bit longer), or it could be the telephone call you’re about to make to a key client or customer, or the meeting you’re walking into to try to land that next job.
So, for example, my objectives for The Monday Munch email are:
Something that will only take a minute or two to read (so you’ll have time for a quick sneaky peak.)
Something that gives you something you can use practically (so you’ll want to have a look.)
Something you’ll want to share with friends and colleagues (because they will thank you.)
Here’s an example: if it was a telephone call that was a bit nervous about making, I might just say...
Your Mindset Morsel this month hails back to something that happened a long time ago, but which can teach us a valuable lesson right here and now.
You can! ...but do you really want to?
It was 65 years ago this month that Roger Bannister ran the first sub-four minute mile. He did it at the Iffley Road Track in Oxford on 6th May 1954.
The current world record had stood for 9 years and the four-minute mark was, in many people’s mind, the next big barrier. Some people, including medical professionals, didn’t believe it was possible for someone to run that fast.
When you think something is impossible, difficult, or not achievable by you, that is generally what you experience.
It becomes even more likely that you won’t achieve it if you listen to other people say how impossible or difficult it is.
So, think about your career, or life in general. What are the things that you want and perhaps even know that you could achieve that “for some reason”...
I saw a great picture on Instagram the other week. You may have caught my short video on Linked about it.
If you take the word ME and draw the reflected image of it underneath you get WE. And that got me thinking about how what we do individually is really important; your skills, qualities, achievements, contributions and impact. After all, that’s why people employ you or, if you’re running a business, buy from you.
But, what this image got me reflecting on is that for any one of us to be successful there needs to be an element of WE involved. Look a the great genius’s and inventors throughout history. Look at the top sports people, business leaders, pop stars and so on. Every one of them has a team around them who have coached, helped, pushed, challenged, supported them to be who they are.
So take a moment to think about who all the WE’s are in your life. Who are the members of your team who support you; colleagues, staff, people in other departments,...
This Mindset Morsel is all about getting really aware of what you're saying to yourself and the effect it could be having on your results.
As usual it's something simple that you can take away and try out now.
Just take a moment to think about how often you use the word “should”?
You might be surprised! I’ll make prediction that when you start thinking about it, you’ll find that it’s quite a lot. In fact, you might find that you’re shoulding all over yourself.
Which is something you could choose to change.
Notice “could”, not “should”: and that really is the point. If I tell you that you should do something, I’m saying that I know better, and there’s some pressure in there for you to do what I say.
But “could” gives you the choice and the power to decide. And it gives you the responsibility for your own outcomes.