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Preparing to blow your own trumpet!

career mindset Jun 10, 2019

Who’s Blowing Yours?

Why, in a career blog would I be talking about trumpets? I don’t play one and probably never will, but there is a trumpet we all need to learn to play, and that’s our own.

I know, right, we’ve been told since we were really small, things like “don’t blow your own trumpet”, “it’s bad to brag”, and so on.

But seriously, if you don’t blow your own trumpet, it’s likely that nobody ever will.

In last week’s blog and Monday Munch (sign up at the bottom of this blog post if you’re not already getting it) I gave you a framework to talk about yourself competently, confidently and, probably most importantly, comfortably.

Listen to the good stuff

One thing that really helps in preparation for that is getting used to taking compliments about yourself. In other words, listening when people say nice things about you and deliberately focussing on your own good points.

Imagine this!

You’re walking down the street one morning and you pass a friend who says “Wow! You’re looking good today”.

And then you pass another who says something nice about you, and another, and another. This goes on and by the time you get to where you’re going you’ve had 9 people say something nice about you. There was one though, who said “ooh, you’re looking rough today”.

When you get home in the evening, what’s the thing you remember? That’s right, the one negative comment, not the positive ones.

Even with positive comments, we tend to brush them off:

            You did a great job there! And you reply, “oh, it’s just part of my job”

            You look nice today! And you mumble an embarrassed thank you

 

Getting ready to play

So, right now, start changing that for yourself.

  • Listen properly when someone pays you a complement and say “Thank You”, clearly, confidently, and without adding anything to play it down:
    • You did a great job there! Reply “Thank you, I’m pleased it was useful”
    • You look nice today! Look them in the eye and reply, “Thank you” and smile
  • Look back at the end of each day and focus on the positive things that happened, and feel how good that felt 

Start doing this and you’ll feel better about yourself and it will help you to start blowing your own trumpet, and playing your own tune.

Wishing you success and happiness.

Dave

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