As we move into August, many people are on holiday, the rush hour roads and trains are quieter and it’s perhaps a chance to reflect and get some strategies in place to reduce stress and increase your levels of calm and peace.
August is a 4 Monday month this year, so look out here and in my Monday Munch email, for some top tips to help you move into the autumn in a positive and stress-free state.
Have you ever had any of these reactions (either yourself or you’ve heard someone else say it), or something similar:
The common factor in these examples is that “you”, “he”, or “she” (i.e. someone else) is doing something, and you are reporting an emotional response. That response (reaction) is probably in the way that you always react, and you probably do it almost instantly.
It has become an almost instinctive response and you might say “I can’t help it” or that “it’s just the way I am” or even “you can’t help how you feel”.
But, actually you can change this. If you choose to.
When something happens outside of us we have an emotional response – in the case of the examples above, a generally negative response.
However, if we were to stop for a split-second and recognise consciously that we’ve experienced an emotion and what that emotion is, we can treat it as data. It really is just information, and as with all information, it’s telling you something about what’s going on.
In my examples above, the emotion you feel is telling you that something isn’t right: you’re feeing mad, stupid or like you’re having your buttons pushed. So, if you stop, even for a split second, and recognise it, you’ve created a space where you can choose a different response and a different feeling.
It takes a bit of practice, but it can dramatically reduce your stress levels and increase your feeling of wellbeing.
Next time you experience a feeling you don’t like:
The key mindsets here are:
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