As we head towards the holiday season, long and hopefully balmy summer days, this is an ideal time to reflect and get some strategies in place to reduce stress and increase your levels of calm and peace.
Have you ever said yourself or heard someone else say things like this:
The common factor here is that someone else is doing something and you are noticing and articulating your emotional response. It’s almost certainly akin to a reflex reaction: something happens and you respond in that way. It has become an almost instinctive response.
You might say, or hear others say, things like, “I can’t help it” or that “it’s just the way I am” or even “you can’t help how you feel”.
BUT, what if you were to pause and notice.
When something happens outside of us we have an emotional response – in the case of the examples above, a generally negative response.
However, if we pause for a split-second and recognise consciously that we’ve experienced an emotion and what that emotion is, we give ourselves choice. Now we can treat that emotion as useful information because it’s telling us whether what’s going on around us is to our liking.
In my examples above, the emotion you feel is telling you that something isn’t right: you’re feeing mad, stupid or like you’re having your buttons pushed. So, if you stop, even for a split second, and recognise it, you’ve created a space. Yes, a space. Pause. Breathe. Now you can identify new options and choose a different response and a different feeling if you wish.
It takes a bit of practice, but it can dramatically reduce your stress levels and increase your feeling of wellbeing.
Next time you experience a feeling you don’t like:
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